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Is She Testing You
She’s Testing You – But Will You Pass or Fail?
Approaching women means you’re putting on your confidence and she’s putting on her filters. In order to categorize you into potential date versus friend zones, she’s going to administer a few tests – without even knowing she’s doing it consciously.
In The Tao of Badass, Joshua Pellicer explains the ritual a woman goes through when you approach her – how she’s feeling you out for cracks in potential relationship or hookup material.
Women put you through a quality check and if you fail the first one you do not get to go on to the second quality check.
One of these checkpoints is to see how secure you are in your gender role. Women want a man that’s strong and firm, but not one who acts like a controlling jerk. There is a fine line between being kind and Women want a man that’s kind and compassionate but not one that acts like a wuss – there’s a fine line.
So what she’s doing with the checkpoints is to see what happens when she pushes you. Can she push and you’ll follow? Can she push and you erupt? A bad reaction to her checkpoint means you aren’t getting any further with her.
While women want a man who’ll be considerate of them and their needs and wants, they don’t want a man they can lead around by the nose.
The first test will be to see how easy you are to control. Josh shows you specific ways she’s going to test your male gender role so that you can see it coming ahead of time.
The second checkpoint will be a test of your ability to handle women. The women you meet want a man who’s used to dating (even if you’re not), who can show that he has experience (even if you don’t) so that she’s not about to get involved with someone inferior to her.
Now if you react a certain way, you’re going to blow your chance. You have to know how to react in order to make it past these checkpoints.
The Tao of Badass guides you through this maze of tests.
There are some key responses that are vital for success that you should know so that you can handle the flirty banter that can be sarcastic and maybe challenging in tone. These responses from you will be the deciding factor of how you’re going to cut it in a woman’s eyes.
It’s okay if you don’t know how to pass these checkpoints or what the right responses are. It’s easy to learn the ropes through the teaching of Tao of Badass – which has an initial eBook you can download right now and a membership area so you can get even better at strategically mastering the role of being a guy women can’t refuse.
With this guide to walk you through that difficult beginning stage of a potential relationship, you’ll learn what women want, how to bring it – and you’ll become more confident than ever as you approach women.
You May Find Your Next Date Anywhere
Nice Guys: This Isn’t Your Father’s Dating School
Your dad was a lucky guy. He met mom in high school, maybe college, fell in love and the rest is history. That’s a beautiful thing when it happens, but these days, it’s not so much like that. We graduate from school and everyone scatters across the globe.
The old connections aren’t in place the way they used to be and modern dating has taken on a whole new face. Besides that, it’s a very rare occurrence, at least in western societies, for people to get married and start families at extremely young ages.
Your parents might have been married when they were 18 or 19. Not so common in today’s world. We (meaning both men and women) want to get through college and maybe grad school, head to parts unknown during our young years to explore and see the world. We get careers started, and maybe change them a couple of times, too.
We want choices. That’s not to say that dear old mom and dad didn’t have choices. But they didn’t have the Internet, nor were they as inclined or able to travel the world, or even the country in search of Mr. or Ms. Perfect. So that brings us to you. You’re looking for Ms. Right, and you’re wondering where and how to find her.
It’s time to learn how the dating world works today. You need to know this because awkwardness shows, and while women find that sort of cute and endearing for a minute, they’re ultimately looking for a guy who shows confidence.
What if you don’t feel confident? You have to reach deep inside and project confidence even if it’s not what your mind is telling you that you’re feeling. You’ll learn to be confident in your dating skills as you test the dating waters.
Part of becoming confident is telling yourself that you are, and acting like it. Don’t confuse confidence with cockiness. They’re two different things and women like one and find the other very annoying (guess which is which).
So what’s today’s dating world like today? Well, your TV would have you think that it’s all about hitting the clubs and drinking martinis while casting mysterious glances at scantily clad women. Nice idea, but seriously, for most people it’s not like that.
You might go to clubs and have a great time, but dating takes place in a huge variety of venues and on any day at any time. Dates can be a night out at the club, or a hockey game, or doing volunteer clean-ups at the local nature center.
Dates take place at the corner café during lunch breaks and dates can take place while you’re at the airport waiting to board a plane. The way today’s world is – fast-paced and always changing, there’s a good chance you could meet someone interesting at the airport terminal or in the office next to yours. Or in another city.
And because women are much different today than in “days of old,” she might enjoy a hockey game as a date, just as much as she’d enjoy dinner and a movie. What all this means is that there are no hard and fast rules anymore about where to meet women, or how to have a date.
You need to learn to always be ready and think on your feet. You need to be open to possibilities as they present themselves. And you need to be ready to step out of your comfort zone.
What if you fail? So what? The more you fail, the better chances you’ll have of succeeding. If you don’t try, you’re dead in the water anyway, so why not just gather up your courage and your creativity and start practicing? Your next date could be the woman you meet at the gym, or in the elevator or at the bookstore. You need to be ready.
Giving To The One You Love During The Holidays
The Art Of Giving To The One You Love For The Holiday Season
Those of you who are in a relationship may want or need to learn the art of giving to the one you love. Gifts do not always have to be given just for birthdays or anniversaries or Christmas and the size of the gift should not matter either.
The art of giving to the one you love starts with the feeling you have for this person in your heart. You love them and want them to be as happy as they can be all the time. So, what do you do to make this possible? You make or buy gifts that they will enjoy and treasure forever.
If you are new to each other this Christmas season, do yourself a favor and ask questions about the things they like and keep a list handy for when you go shopping. If you pay attention to what they say and how they react to things they see on television then you can get a good idea of what they want.
There are some people that hold off buying themselves things they want because they are concentrating on only getting the things for themselves that they need. Try to stay away from buying things they need and surprise them with a want this season. They will definitely know that you have put a lot of thought into buying them this gift and will treasure how special you have made them feel.
If you need further help in selecting the perfect gift, ask their friends and family members what they think would be appropriate. Sometimes friends and family have a unique perspective about this person and can give you a lot of ideas about things they have dreamed about having for a long time.
Another way to figure out what she likes or doesn’t like is to go shopping with her. Make mental notes of the things that catch her eye when you are out. A good bet that she wants what is in the store window is if she looks at it for a time then sighs and walks away. Maybe it is a nice piece of jewelry or the latest fashion in boots.
Won’t she be surprised on Christmas morning if you have paid attention and she finds that special gift she never thought she would get for herself under the tree. If the jewelry she was looking at is within your price range and you decide that that is what you will buy her, make it more personal by getting it engraved with some small sentiment or even her name. This will endear it and you to her forever.
The art of giving to the one you love does not have to be difficult. If your budget does not run to buying expensive jewelry then find something else to buy or even use your imagination to come up with a gift you can make or present to her like a “coupon” for some service you are willing to perform for her for a specified amount of time.
What Does Your New Partner’s Handwriting Tell You
Handwriting-Can Tell You About The Person You Are Dating
Analyzing the way someone writes is called graphology. You can learn a lot about a person from their handwriting. It can tell different things about their personality and character. Handwriting can tell you something about the person you are dating or in a relationship that you dont know.
Handwriting analysis is the study of the forms of the letters and symbols you make when you are writing in cursive. We are all taught how to make the letters and write in cursive in school but penmanship is rarely ever taught anymore and this has led to very relaxed styles of writing and everyone having their own way of doing things.
It used to be that everyone was taught the same style of penmanship and then came out of school all writing the same way in the same style. Did you know that in some circles Abraham Lincoln’s penmanship would have been thought of as uneducated? Because he used a more relaxed style it was not considered proper penmanship.
Through the years secretaries had to know a style called “fair hand” before they were hired so they could write letters that were legible. In the 1700-1800″s this was the way companies did business and the correspondence had to be as legible as possible so “fair hand” was what someone who wanted to be a secretary had to know.
Now, there are three different types of graphology used to study samples of penmanship:
1. Integrative graphology involves discovering certain personality traits by how they write. For instance, say you enrolled in a college to further your education. They may look at your writing samples to see what kind of student you will be.
2. Symbolic graphology involves looking at writing samples of someone after they die and looking for certain aspects of their writing that may give some insight to their life. This is usually used in forensics and may be used as evidence in court.
3. Holistic graphology is the rarely used study of spacing and legibility. Apparently you can tell a lot about someone just by how closely they space the letters and how well you can read what they write.
Common identifiers in writing are the slant used by the writer, angling the line when you write, and the words you use in a sentence. These are all “tells” to someone who knows what to look for.
If you write with a backward slant you could be suffering from emotional distress, but if you write with a forward slant you are happy and want people to know it.
If you angle the sentence you are writing up off the line on the paper you are probably in a good mood. If you stay exactly on the line you are probably a perfectionist and have to have things exact and if you angle downward under the line you are most like in need of some sleep because you are tired.
How you cross your t’s and dot your i’s can say a lot about how you feel about yourself as well. A low cross of the t and dot of the i means you have some self-esteem issues that should probably be addressed and a high cross or dot means you feel good about yourself.
Handwriting analysis can be very useful when used correctly like in forensics. Using it to catch a criminal is just another weapon in the arsenal for investigators. Using this type of analysis to determine if someone would be good for your company may or may not be acceptable.
In a relationship it could never hurt to have the insight.